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Internet dating is proving a much more successful
way to find long-term romance and friendship for thousands of people
than was previously thought, new research shows.
A new study of
online dating site members has found that when couples who had built up
a significant relationship by e-mailing or chatting online met for the
first time, 94 per cent went on to see each other again.
Perhaps
surprisingly, the study, by Dr Jeff Gavin, of the University of Bath,
also found that men were more emotionally dependent on their e-partners
than women, and more committed to the relationship.
Old-fashioned
romance isnt dead, however: among the surveys findings were that
exchanging gifts was the best way to ensure commitment in the
relationship.
Dr Gavins research comes at a time when the
numbers using internet dating agencies have steadily increased: around
six million Britons are now believed to have signed up.
Dr
Gavin, with Dr Adrian Scott of the University of Bath and Dr Jill
Duffield of the University of the West of England, carried out an
online survey of 229 people, aged 18 to 65, who have used UK internet
dating sites, asking them about their main relationship that they had
had online. Dr Gavins paper will be presented to a conference next
month.
The research showed that:
94 per cent of those
surveyed saw their e-partner again after first meeting them, and the
relationships lasted for an average of at least seven months, with 18
per cent of them lasting over a year.
men online were
significantly more likely to be committed to the relationship than
women and were more dependent on their e-partner.
the more the
couple engaged in simultaneous online chat before meeting rather than
simply e-mailing one another, the more they were found to depend on one
another emotionally and the more they understood one another.
those who exchanged gifts before meeting had a more committed and deeper relationship.
the more the couple talked on the telephone before they met, the deeper the relationship.
Dr
Gavin, of the Universitys Psychology Department, and his co-authors,
found that people using the internet rarely used webcams, which allow
computer users to see one another, because they preferred the greater
anonymity of writing and using the telephone.
This study shows
that online dating can work for many people, leading to a successful
meeting for almost everyone we surveyed, said Dr Gavin.
Given
that the most successful relationships lasted at least seven months,
and in some case over a year, it seems that these relationships have a
similar level of success as ones formed in more conventional ways.
We
found that men tend to be more committed to the online relationships
than women, possibly because the anonymity of writing gives them a
chance to express their emotions more readily than in real life.
We
also found that people are shying away from using webcams because they
feel its important not see their partners for some time there is
something special about text-based relationships.
Dr Gavin
believes that the reason that using the telephone and online chatting
indicates a deeper relationship is that these are methods of
simultaneous communication, whereas e-mails are more formal.
Of
the relationships, 39 per cent were still going on at the time of the
survey, and of these 24 per cent had been going for at least a year,
and eight per cent for at least two years. Of the relationships that
had already ended at the time of the survey, 14 per cent had lasted
over a year, and four per cent had lasted over two years.
